Grace-led Recovery

new-dayMany regular folks view recovery as something for those who have addictions like drugs, alcohol, gambling, gaming, pornography, etc. But do you realize that every human soul has a need for recovery from sin?

September is marked as Recovery Month. Those who are a part of a recovery group or involved in working among those recovering from some hurt, hang-up or habit, know how important it is to get to and through the doorway called recovery.  Step one is to stop denying and acknowledge the problem.

All have sinned (Romans 3:23)

Because we are born under the curse of sin, we suffer from its consequences. We have a bent toward that which is wrong, from the day we are born until we die. So, what does life look like for those who understand the journey into recovering from this human condition?

  1. A healthy emotional life is marked by intimacy.

daisy-712892__480Do your relationships carry an openness of heart? The ability to relate at a level deeper that the topical, “How do you do?” Intimacy is marked by openness of heart, not necessarily agreement always, but the ability to express your feelings without shame or embarrassment of reprisal from the other. When two individuals, or more, are able to interact and exchange their views at this level, intimacy will grow.

  1. Removal of denial.

We all have instances of denial that must be dealt with in various stages ofDoorway life. A humility of heart allows us to be open to seeing things for what they are. God reveals to us changes that He would like to help us with when we humble ourselves. When denial falls off, opportunity knocks on our door. Until a person truly sees their need for God’s grace to come in and change something that is disordered in their life, they will be blinded to their need. Here again a heart of humility and acknowledgement of sin is crucial.

  1. God’s has better things ahead for you.

God is the author of HOPE!  May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope. (Romans 15:13). Believing that God has a greater plan for you, no matter where you’ve been is what His grace is all about. Doing our part, the work of recovering from whatever besetting sin has captured our heart, will place us on the road to the opportunities God has for us. With victory comes the warning: Peter tells us to be sober and vigilant because our adversary is out to destroy us (IPeter 5:8).

In recovery, sobriety is a fearful place, never quite sure you’ll keep it going… white knuckling through life is no way to live. Always a lurking fear that you’ll fall back into your habit. Discovering and walking in God’s grace is a secure place to live, knowing that He carries you. There is a big difference.

adult-1868652__480Real joy comes to our lives daily as we walk in God’s Grace. Seeking Him daily in His Word and having a tender heart to hear His voice, rejoicing in the fact that He loves us brings us peace. This is the ongoing nature of a recovered heart. It doesn’t stop and say, “There, I’ve done it.” It continues onward, ever growing and glorifying God by what He desires to do through our lives.

So how about you? Are you in recovery from the Fall (Genesis 3)? Have you reached out to the Hand of help through Jesus Christ the Savior of all mankind? If not, do it today! Decide today to move into a place of actively pursuing all God has planned for your life.

Freedom from Sexual Idolatry

There’s help for those who have been affected by pornography and associated sexual sin. Pure Life Ministries offers hope & encouragement to those trapped in sexual sin and offers hope to the affected spouse.

Habitual sexual sin has a common pattern in the life of one given over to it: anger, lying, impatience, vagueness, self-centeredness, poor relationships and secrecy to name a few. An addict interacts in a superficial way to hide their corrupt heart. Often, they mask their sin by an indifferent attitude and keeping their distance from those who could help.

In order to help yourself, or someone hiding their sexual addiction, you need to become educated. Christian wives are often the most vulnerable, not wanting to suspect their husband has a problem, and greater yet the fear of what this self-centered life could cost them. Sexual sin will eventually destroy their marriage, and family if serious help is not sought.

Listen to the testimonies of these women who walked the hard road of recovery from marriages destroyed by ravages of sexual sin, and then restored. These women got help and received hope in the midst of tremendous pain. For each testimony shared on UNCHAINED the husband’s testimony is also available.

Testimonies — Pure Life Ministries

Dina, a young Christian wife who could not understand what was happening with her husband, Josh, and their marriage, discovered porn had a hold upon him. Here’s her testimony. (4 minutes)

Christina, a young mother, learned her husband was addicted to porn. She left home with her one-year-old son, sleeping wherever she could to get away from the behaviors associated with this addiction. God intervened and delivered her husband, Sherman, from his habitual sin and healed her heart. (4 minutes)

Nikki got married thinking that would help correct the problems they were facing before marriage. But no so, they were devastated by Wesley’s sexual sin and they grew to hate one another. Her testimony demonstrates the ability for hearts to be changed and forgiveness and hope to come. (4 minutes)

There are many other testimonies like these on the Pure Life Ministries website. Photo Credit: Pure Life Ministries

For Further info go to my RESOURCE page.

Freedom from Habitual Sin

Addiction is rampant in our society. In biblical terms, we would describe this as bondage to an idol in the heart.  Something that has been given a place and taken hold in the person’s life to where they feel helpless to become free.  Some thing or person has been chosen over God to fill the void or remove some hidden pain in their soul. The good news is that through Jesus Christ there is freedom from destructive habits. It involves work and dedication to the process, but freedom is guaranteed to the ones who will humble themselves, repent with godly sorrow, and hate the sin that binds them. This involves loving the Savior who died to set us free from the bondage of sin, in whatever form it takes.

Sexual Idolatry is a major problem today. Unlike drug or alcohol addiction, this habitual sin can be masked for a period of time while secretly doing it’s work of changing one’s brain. Usually, by the time it is discovered, great harm has come to the individual, marriage, and family. The destructive consequences will follow, but there is hope.

With the growth of the internet, the porn epidemic has become a tsunami ravaging our world.  Pornography + Masturbation = Tragedy. Sexual abuse, pedophilia, sodomy, bestiality, human trafficking, and all sexual lust brings Satan delight in his mission to steal, kill and destroy God’s creation (John 10:10). Because of our Father’s great love toward us, He desires to redeem each one. His desire involves abundant life that comes from a right relationship with Him through repentance and correction steps to restore wholeness within.

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II Cor. 7:11 indicators of Godly Sorrow:

  1. Eagerness and earnest care to explain what you did, even though you may not understand why.
  2. To clear yourself of the wrongdoing and follow-up with proper actions.
  3. To hate the sin that you were involved in.
  4. To have alarm and fear about the seriousness of sin.
  5. yearning and desire to live for God instead of your own pleasure.
  6. Zeal to make things right. To correct all injustice.
  7. readiness to embrace the consequences and make corrections.

Understanding the physiological changes that result from habitual porn hits to the brain is cricial in gaining freedom. This will give hope and practical help to those who’ve struggled for years to be released from the bondage of porn use. Please see my Resources page for insights and wisdom.

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